Articles – Dr. Jack Cohen Dating

Dating for Success: How Is Your Marriage?

A student who had recently gotten married once approached the great Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”l. After some introductory conversation, Rav Shlomo Zalman inquired of the young man as to how his married life was going. With an innocent smile, the man replied, “Thank G-d, [...]

Dating for Success: What Are the Ways to Date With Clarity?

Here are the 5 steps for getting more clarity throughout the dating process. 1. Shh! Keep things private Don’t talk about your dates with too many people. You need a minimum of one person to talk things out with, and ideally no more than three. [...]

Dating for Success: Lessons From a Kallah

I wish someone had told me before I became a kallah that warmth will become more important than appearances. It goes without saying that people place an emphasis on their looks. In a marriage, this is a wonderfully positive facet. When a wife (and husband) are [...]

Dating for Success: Making the Most Of Your Singles Days

I am an intelligent, accomplished, and passionate professional doing what I can to find the woman with whom I’m eager to spend my life. I know I’ll find her when the time is right. In the meantime, I can’t help but feel that I’m waiting [...]

Dating for Success: Searching For a Soulmate Rather Than a Partner

What G-d wanted in a relationship Having given you an earful about the importance of using dating to create the permanent relationship of marriage, I now address what you should be looking for in marriage. In particular, I want to focus on the erroneous modern [...]

Dating for Success: What Are the Ways to Date With Clarity?

What Are the Ways to Date With Clarity? Here are the 5 steps for getting more clarity throughout the dating process. 1. Shh! Keep things private Don’t talk about your dates with too many people. You need a minimum of one person to talk things [...]

Dating for Success: Can I Successfully Date Someone From Another Country?

Can I Successfully Date Someone From Another Country? I thought it would be easier than it is. I am not from the United States, I speak English well but it is not my first language. I am finding this to be a bigger problem than [...]

Dating for Success: New Research on the Key to Keeping Desire Alive

New Research on the Key to Keeping Desire Alive We are hardly shocked when we hear about long term relationships breaking up. Whether celebrities or neighbors down the block, divorce has become way too common. At the start of a relationship, there is intense emotion. If [...]

Dating for Success: Dating at Different Levels of Observance

Dating for Success: Dating at Different Levels of Observance Question: I have met a man who is religiously observant. I grew up reform and am now trying to learn more about being observant. This man and I have amazing chemistry. He appreciates that I am [...]

Dating for Success: 10 Ways to Make a Good Marriage a Great One – Easy to Implement, Insightful Tips

Dating for Success: 10 Ways to Make a Good Marriage a Great One - Easy to Implement, Insightful Tips 1-Spend Time Together Even ten minutes a day of uninterrupted time to touch base builds connection. Spending more time when available and setting aside time to [...]

Dating for Success: Disclosing Medical Conditions in Dating

Disclosing Medical Conditions in Dating Dear Rabbi, I am a 30-year-old woman who two years ago went from having no health issues to having a serious chronic illness. I have battled to a place that is now stable and I am hoping to start dating. [...]

Dating for Success: Nerves or Concerns

Nerves or Concerns? Consider the following scenario. A girl goes out with a boy for some time, all the while holding him in high regard and developing a good relationship with him without any seeming problems. They appear to be emotionally compatible and aligned in [...]

Dating for Success: Second Marriage (Part 2)

Second Marriage (Part 2) Children A second marriage, similar to a first marriage should not be hurried into. This is especially important because of the many factors present in second marriages that are usually not present in first marriages. The most obvious of these is [...]

Dating for Success: Second Marriage (Part 1)

Second Marriage (Part 1) In a perfect world, men and women would marry, live long and happy lives together and leave this world at about the same time. There would be no need for second marriages. But we live in a world that is far from [...]

Dating for Success: Dating Expectations of Each Date

Dating Expectations of Each Date There are no rules when it comes to dating, contrary to some modern day books and articles. But since misguided dating expectations can kill a date, it’s helpful to know your goal for each date. Date #1: The aim here [...]

Dating For Success: Be The Man, Be The Woman

Be The Man, Be The Woman Marriage, very simply, refers to a relationship between a man and a woman. While this may seem obvious, in truth, it would be more accurate to rephrase this as such: A happy and healthy marriage refers to a relationship [...]

Dating For Success: How Is Your Marriage

How Is Your Marriage A student who had recently gotten married once approached the great Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”l. After some introductory conversation, Rav Shlomo Zalman inquired of the young man as to how his married life was going. With an innocent smile, the man replied, [...]

Dating For Success: Learning The Lesson

Learning The Lesson Dating comes with its twists and turns, trials and tribulations. Part and parcel of meeting the right man or woman is meeting the wrong man or woman. While shadchanim do their best to make appropriate and suitable matches, there is much more to [...]

Dating For Success: Dating Second Time Around

Dating Second Time Around We broke up a year ago. Should we give it a second chance??? At first your dating was going well but at some point you decided not to continue. You might have had a devastating break-up, or perhaps you both agreed that [...]

Dating For Success: Taking Stock Of Ourselves

Taking Stock Of Ourselves While many singles have expectations of a marriage partner, they can be totally oblivious to their own shortcomings. For example, Abe insisted that matchmakers set him up with slim, attractive women, despite his being 5’11” and weighing 270 pounds. Laura continually [...]

Dating For Success: Egocentric Expectations

Egocentric Expectations In our egocentric society, couples often marry because they hope to receive more from a spouse than they did as singles. But unless both partners give instead of take, their love will die of malnutrition. Children use people as objects. They believe that [...]

Dating For Success: Appreciating Differences

Appreciating Differences Everyone wants to be appreciated and to feel unique and special. We make people feel this way by asking them to share memories, experiences, feelings, and ideas with us, then show that we treasure them. We are able to do this most easily [...]

Dating For Success: Your Future Lifestyle

Your Future Lifestyle One of the common fallacies made by those entering the shidduch scene soon after high school and seminary is that material matters in life are relatively unimportant. Spiritual growth, for themselves and their prospective spouse, is held in highest regard and the [...]

Dating For Success: In Laws

In Laws When dating, both the boy and girl focus on the qualities and values of each other and consider if and how they can fuse their lives together as one unit. The emphasis and attention is placed on the boy and girl themselves and [...]

Dating & Shalom Bayit – Tips and Tidbits

Your Future Lifestyle One of the common fallacies made by those entering the shidduch scene soon after high school and seminary is that material matters in life are relatively unimportant. Spiritual growth, for themselves and their prospective spouse, is held in highest regard and the [...]