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Dating for Success: Dating for the Divorced
While much attention is placed on the dating scene for young men and women, there are numerous other scenarios and situations that do not get nearly as much focus. Individuals who may be in different predicaments and not fall into the same category as everyone [...]
Dating for Success: Building Attraction
In order to develop a happy and healthy relationship, physical attraction is necessary. However, it is only the starting point. It is the match from which deeper and profounder feelings of affection and love are lit. And indeed, as time progresses, it is meant to [...]
Dating for Success: Confident or Arrogant?
Confidence and arrogance may seem similar, though there is a thin line that lies between them and differentiates the person you should date and person you would be better without. Here are some signs to help you determine the difference: Arrogant people tend to speak [...]
Dating for Success: Dating Second Time Around
We broke up a year ago. Should we give it a second chance??? At first your dating was going well but at some point you decided not to continue. You might have had a devastating break-up, or perhaps you both agreed that things weren’t [...]
Dating for Success: Creating Emotional Intimacy
At the core of a relationship at any stage of its development is emotional intimacy. It is what glues a husband and wife together and enables them to feel the vibrancy and vitality of a deep and meaningful bond. But, it must be emphasized, it [...]
Dating for Success: 5 Common Dating Myths
Like urban legend, these sound like they make a lot of sense but they are not true. Myth # 1: The smartest and prettiest women get married first. A woman/man who is more accomplished or attractive may receive more dates than some of her/his friends, [...]
Dating for Success: The Smorgasbord Syndrome
The noblemen scampered to the sides to let the king through. His regal personage stormed between the bowed heads as he approached the banquet table. There he stood transfixed, surveying the vast landscape of delicacies, as the royal chefs trembled. “And where is the trout!” [...]
Dating for Success: Dating Resume and Profile Tips: How Does One Write a Great Resume?
The best dating profile I ever read Matchmakers read thousands of profiles, and it’s a real challenge to get yours to stand out. It’s also difficult to differentiate your unique traits from the multitude of those searching for their soulmates on dating websites. Let’s examine [...]
Dating for Success: In Laws
When dating, both the boy and girl focus on the qualities and values of each other and consider if and how they can fuse their lives together as one unit. The emphasis and attention is placed on the boy and girl themselves and not their [...]
Dating for Success: Research Questions
Here are some more important questions to ask along your process of research: How would you describe his/her dependability on their parents? Healthy dependence is fine; you are looking for an excessive degree of clinging which can cause issues. Does he/she smoke or drink? (For [...]
Dating for Success: 10 Tips After 20 Years of Marriage
Mazal Tov to Us! We’ve been married for 20 years. Ironically, I still feel like that’s not too much; those older and wiser than us have so much to teach us. But, nevertheless, 20 years is a big milestone, and we’ve certainly learned plenty along [...]
Dating for Success: How Is Your Marriage?
A student who had recently gotten married once approached the great Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”l. After some introductory conversation, Rav Shlomo Zalman inquired of the young man as to how his married life was going. With an innocent smile, the man replied, “Thank G-d, [...]
Dating for Success: What Are the Ways to Date With Clarity?
Here are the 5 steps for getting more clarity throughout the dating process. 1. Shh! Keep things private Don’t talk about your dates with too many people. You need a minimum of one person to talk things out with, and ideally no more than three. [...]
Dating for Success: Lessons From a Kallah
I wish someone had told me before I became a kallah that warmth will become more important than appearances. It goes without saying that people place an emphasis on their looks. In a marriage, this is a wonderfully positive facet. When a wife (and husband) are [...]
Dating for Success: Making the Most Of Your Singles Days
I am an intelligent, accomplished, and passionate professional doing what I can to find the woman with whom I’m eager to spend my life. I know I’ll find her when the time is right. In the meantime, I can’t help but feel that I’m waiting [...]
Dating for Success: Searching For a Soulmate Rather Than a Partner
What G-d wanted in a relationship Having given you an earful about the importance of using dating to create the permanent relationship of marriage, I now address what you should be looking for in marriage. In particular, I want to focus on the erroneous modern [...]
Dating for Success: What Are the Ways to Date With Clarity?
What Are the Ways to Date With Clarity? Here are the 5 steps for getting more clarity throughout the dating process. 1. Shh! Keep things private Don’t talk about your dates with too many people. You need a minimum of one person to talk things [...]
Dating for Success: Can I Successfully Date Someone From Another Country?
Can I Successfully Date Someone From Another Country? I thought it would be easier than it is. I am not from the United States, I speak English well but it is not my first language. I am finding this to be a bigger problem than [...]
Dating for Success: New Research on the Key to Keeping Desire Alive
New Research on the Key to Keeping Desire Alive We are hardly shocked when we hear about long term relationships breaking up. Whether celebrities or neighbors down the block, divorce has become way too common. At the start of a relationship, there is intense emotion. If [...]
Dating for Success: Dating at Different Levels of Observance
Dating for Success: Dating at Different Levels of Observance Question: I have met a man who is religiously observant. I grew up reform and am now trying to learn more about being observant. This man and I have amazing chemistry. He appreciates that I am [...]
Dating for Success: 10 Ways to Make a Good Marriage a Great One – Easy to Implement, Insightful Tips
Dating for Success: 10 Ways to Make a Good Marriage a Great One - Easy to Implement, Insightful Tips 1-Spend Time Together Even ten minutes a day of uninterrupted time to touch base builds connection. Spending more time when available and setting aside time to [...]
Dating for Success: Disclosing Medical Conditions in Dating
Disclosing Medical Conditions in Dating Dear Rabbi, I am a 30-year-old woman who two years ago went from having no health issues to having a serious chronic illness. I have battled to a place that is now stable and I am hoping to start dating. [...]
Dating for Success: Nerves or Concerns
Nerves or Concerns? Consider the following scenario. A girl goes out with a boy for some time, all the while holding him in high regard and developing a good relationship with him without any seeming problems. They appear to be emotionally compatible and aligned in [...]
Dating for Success: Second Marriage (Part 2)
Second Marriage (Part 2) Children A second marriage, similar to a first marriage should not be hurried into. This is especially important because of the many factors present in second marriages that are usually not present in first marriages. The most obvious of these is [...]
Dating for Success: Second Marriage (Part 1)
Second Marriage (Part 1) In a perfect world, men and women would marry, live long and happy lives together and leave this world at about the same time. There would be no need for second marriages. But we live in a world that is far from [...]
Dating for Success: Dating Expectations of Each Date
Dating Expectations of Each Date There are no rules when it comes to dating, contrary to some modern day books and articles. But since misguided dating expectations can kill a date, it’s helpful to know your goal for each date. Date #1: The aim here [...]
Dating For Success: Be The Man, Be The Woman
Be The Man, Be The Woman Marriage, very simply, refers to a relationship between a man and a woman. While this may seem obvious, in truth, it would be more accurate to rephrase this as such: A happy and healthy marriage refers to a relationship [...]
Dating For Success: How Is Your Marriage
How Is Your Marriage A student who had recently gotten married once approached the great Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”l. After some introductory conversation, Rav Shlomo Zalman inquired of the young man as to how his married life was going. With an innocent smile, the man replied, [...]
Dating For Success: Learning The Lesson
Learning The Lesson Dating comes with its twists and turns, trials and tribulations. Part and parcel of meeting the right man or woman is meeting the wrong man or woman. While shadchanim do their best to make appropriate and suitable matches, there is much more to [...]
Dating For Success: Dating Second Time Around
Dating Second Time Around We broke up a year ago. Should we give it a second chance??? At first your dating was going well but at some point you decided not to continue. You might have had a devastating break-up, or perhaps you both agreed that [...]
Dating For Success: Taking Stock Of Ourselves
Taking Stock Of Ourselves While many singles have expectations of a marriage partner, they can be totally oblivious to their own shortcomings. For example, Abe insisted that matchmakers set him up with slim, attractive women, despite his being 5’11” and weighing 270 pounds. Laura continually [...]
Dating For Success: Egocentric Expectations
Egocentric Expectations In our egocentric society, couples often marry because they hope to receive more from a spouse than they did as singles. But unless both partners give instead of take, their love will die of malnutrition. Children use people as objects. They believe that [...]
Dating For Success: Appreciating Differences
Appreciating Differences Everyone wants to be appreciated and to feel unique and special. We make people feel this way by asking them to share memories, experiences, feelings, and ideas with us, then show that we treasure them. We are able to do this most easily [...]
Dating For Success: Your Future Lifestyle
Your Future Lifestyle One of the common fallacies made by those entering the shidduch scene soon after high school and seminary is that material matters in life are relatively unimportant. Spiritual growth, for themselves and their prospective spouse, is held in highest regard and the [...]
Dating For Success: In Laws
In Laws When dating, both the boy and girl focus on the qualities and values of each other and consider if and how they can fuse their lives together as one unit. The emphasis and attention is placed on the boy and girl themselves and [...]
Dating & Shalom Bayit – Tips and Tidbits
Your Future Lifestyle One of the common fallacies made by those entering the shidduch scene soon after high school and seminary is that material matters in life are relatively unimportant. Spiritual growth, for themselves and their prospective spouse, is held in highest regard and the [...]
